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Coaching requires a particular kind of listening. Not just to what a client says, but to how he says it. The words he chooses. The ones he avoids. The slight change in posture when something resonates. The longer pause before an answer that tells you more than the answer itself. You're watching and listening at the same time and you're doing it continuously, because the most important moments in a coaching conversation rarely announce themselves. We live behind an alcohol mas

Outwardly smiling, inwardly churning.. He held the whiskey a long time before he drank it. It was a quiet night in a friend's lounge room, no occasion to speak of, and the friend had poured two glasses without asking. He wasn't thirsty. He just didn't want to be the one who said no. He told me about it weeks later, still turning it over. "Saying no felt like disrespect." That sentence piqued my curiosity, it felt like something he'd known for years and never said out loud. "S

The patriarchy trap, getting caught in traditional male gender roles, being the stoic provider, protector, fixer, advisor, manager, father, lover etc. How this type of modelling traps a lot of men into an idealistic role they don't always meet, leading to feelings of inadequacy or worse, fear of failure. Not living up to the stereotype, manifests with frustration and even anger. Throw in all the conversations around changing gender roles, pronouns and identity, creates more

For the last 9 years I have been flying an aircraft I built myself. I think I'm pretty reasonable at flying it, I have learned what to do and when, what flight control and throttle settings to use, what speeds to maintain for the various phases of flight. How the engine sounds, how the aircraft behaves and so on. What's this got to do with being alcohol free? Bear with me there is some relevance. You could say I have formed a lot of neural networks that make it easy for my b

If you are like I was, a long term binge drinker you may not even be aware that all your day to day experiences are more than likely being filtered and dumbed down by the effects of what's going on in your brain. As vision is your primary sense, its like you are living with glass bottomed goggles on. Say what? Yep, your brain can anticipate the ingestion of alcohol and compensate for it, damping down the artificial buzz alcohol gives you. The effect over time is make everythi